When I first became a stay-at-home mom, I really struggled as I had an “idea” of what it was going to be like and it was VERY different. Mainly because, I thought I would have more down time and it was so much more work than what I had expected.
Also, as an extreme extrovert it was hard to not have a large amount of interaction with other adults initially. I knew that it would be a sacrifice but, I was positive that God had called me to be home with my kids in this season. I didn’t (and still don’t know) for how long but, I knew I had to find a way to thrive in this role.
I was so grateful to have an older stay at home mom take me under her wing, and show me different ways to really enjoy my new role. Here are my top 5 tips for thriving as a stay-at-home mom :
1. Get dressed every single day.
Even if you are crazy busy with how much you have to do, it makes a big difference mentally to get you and your children dressed every single day. This is part of the self-care that you so desperately need as a stay-at-home mom.
There are definitely days where it seems to be too much work to take the kids out, and it’s easier to stay in. However, there is something that happens mentally that encourages you when you take care of yourself, and get ready for the day.
2. Make other stay-at-home mom friends.
This literally gave me life in every way. There are so many places where you can connect with other mom’s in your area that are able to relate to the different demands you have within your day. Some places that I found my greatest friends are: library story times, local mom groups that I found on the internet, and my church. There are so many local events and websites designed for us, you just have to get out and go! Everyone is looking to connect so, it’s not hard to make a new friend. Just say “Hi”!
3. Get out of the house.
Staying in the house can make you feel like your world is closing in and all you do is care for another human being(s). Getting out always helps me feel rejuvenated and refreshed from all of my responsibilities and it’s usually just as good for me as it is for my children. Whether you just go for a walk or to browse the isles of Target, get outside! Being around other people can completely change your day.
4. Have a routine.
Having a schedule that you follow throughout your day is so helpful with being and feeling productive. I personally really needed to look at my new role the same as any job. So, I have tasks that I need to complete every day and times where I need to do a variety of things. This was super helpful in the baby stage with naps, feedings, snack time, play time, etc.
5. Give yourself a break.
Stay-at-home mom’s do not get lunch breaks, and many of us tend to feel that our job spans the entire 24 hour period of a day. It’s so helpful to schedule in down time for yourself throughout the day. Nap or quiet times are great for this to eat lunch, watch a show or take a nap yourself. This will refresh you to take on the second half of the day.
One thing I’ve always been strict with is my kid’s nap or quiet times. I’ve never wavered, and we are all happier because of it.
Also, I know it’s harder for some of us to get out of the house than others on the weekends, but schedule a time with your husband or a girl friend to go out for dinner (even just once a month). This does so much for your mental health.. you need adult interaction …haha… and this is a great way to do that!
Being a stay at home mom is such a privilege and blessing to your family. You are doing an amazing thing that will benefit your kids in more ways than I can list. There is a lot of joy that comes from this role, but there is also a lot of sacrifice. I hope these 5 tips will help you thrive in this role, no matter how long you decide to stay home.
This role has been so fulfilling to me, but we all have to figure out what works for us, and this has worked really well for me! I wouldn’t trade it for the world!
Do you have any tips that help you thrive as a stay at home mom? (Comment below)